Can the Law of Attraction Help For A Failing Relationship
Can the Law of Attraction help me with a failed relationship or should I walk away? I have been married to an Egyptian man for nearly 7 years. He is 10 years younger than me and had four sisters to marry when we met. I cannot conceive children and I told him from the beginning about this. I was often worried that when the sisters were married he would leave me for someone else and have children and sometimes would ask him why he stayed with me hoping for reassurance.
One year ago, I found he was cheating and he explained it was because he felt unsuccessful, insecure (I earn much more) and wanted children. He finished with one woman and then began a supposedly platonic but very intense relationship with a married woman my age.
He then claimed there were too many problems in our marriage and children were not the only issue.
Instead of talking he spent, and still does, most of his time outside, has started drinking and has often been very verbally abusive.
I am not allowed to ask where he goes or what he does. I have bought him a car and given him some money so he feels more secure, but of course, this has not helped.
He talked of a temporary separation but now does not want to leave because he does not want to pay rent. He contributes nothing and pays no bills, before all the money was being sent to Egypt to pay for weddings, but there are no more for another 2 years.
When I suggested paying for him to have a room his behavior slightly improved for a month and now he is sleeping back in our bed, not on the sofa, but he is still out all the time and does not want to talk.
I feel that he wants me to make a decision because he is too afraid to.
I have been absolutely distraught and the situation, which has lasted 9 months, is affecting my health.
This man was so loving and trustworthy, which is why I have not filed for divorce. I have been desperately hoping there was some way to save the situation.
Is there any way that the Law of Attraction can help me?
I still love the man he used to be but I feel that soon I must let go and I am heartbroken.
Can the Law of Attraction Help A Failing Relationship Reply
by John Peace
The Law of Attraction aligns to our reality, cooperative events, circumstances and people who are a match to the way we predominantly think and feel.
In other words, depending on our focused thoughts and feelings, or our vibration, we attract certain events, specific circumstances and particular people, and the resulting reality that we all experience, is a match to the way we all think and feel.
Anyone who shares our reality does so because of the way they think and feel and the way we think and feel, and because people are so sensitive to vibration, if they can, they will very quickly match the vibration of others.
In fact, the Law of Attraction is the basis for all relationships, good or bad.
So what have been, and what are, the thoughts and feelings that you have towards this relationship?
I will highlight a few of the points that you make in your question to try and explain what I mean.
“I was often worried that when the sisters were married he would leave me for someone else and have children.”
When you have thoughts and feelings of worry, in order to align to a reality which cooperates with these thoughts and feelings, any new reality must cause you to think and feel worry.
“I would ask him why he stayed with me hoping for reassurance.”
When you have thoughts and feelings of hoping for reassurance, in order to align to a reality which cooperates with these thoughts and feelings, any new reality must cause you to hope for reassurance.
“Instead of talking…”
When you have thoughts and feelings of lack of communication, in order to align to a reality which cooperates with these thoughts and feelings, any new reality must lack communication.
“He contributes nothing and pays no bills.”
When you have thoughts and feelings that he contributes nothing, in order to align to a reality which cooperates with these thoughts and feelings, any new reality must be one in which he contributes nothing.
“I have been desperately hoping there was some way to save the situation.”
When you have thoughts and feelings of desperation, in order to align to a reality which cooperates with these thoughts and feelings, any new reality must be one in which you think and feel desperate.
I am sure that in some of these cases you may respond by saying that, you only feel this way because of the way he has made you feel, that your thoughts and feeling did not bring this situation, they are the result of this situation.
There may be some truth in that, but as these experiences have come to you, you certainly have spent some time thinking and feeling about them, and as you have thought and felt about the negative of what these experiences have offered you, you have made them a part of you. You have included them in your vibration, and as they are a part of the way you vibrate, you will align to a reality with certain events, specific circumstances and particular people that continue to make you feel this way.
The trouble that many people have in applying the Law of Attraction, particularly when they are faced with unwanted experiences, is that in an attempt to rid themselves of an unwanted reality, they focus their attention and energy to the very things that cause them to experience that reality.
They push away unwanted experiences.
They try to control others who offer them unwanted experiences.
They join forces to fight unwanted experiences.
They shout no at what they do not want, but somehow, each and every thing that they try to drive away, has a knack of coming right back, sometimes from new and unexpected places.
Shout no at undesired behavior, and there shall always be undesired behavior to shout no at.
Shout no at undesired treatment, and there shall always be undesired treatment to shout no at.
Shout no at sickness, and there shall always be sickness to shout no at.
Shout no at debt, and there shall always be debt to shout no at.
Shout no at a poor relationship, and there shall always be a poor relationship to shout no at.
This is because we live in an inclusive Universe, and it does not matter what you want, or what you don’t want. What matters is what you give your attention to. And for as much as you give something your attention, for as much as you think and feel about it, and for as much as you include it in your vibration, so shall it be attracted into the reality you are aligning to.
There is a great speech from Abraham-Hicks which clearly demonstrates the way most people think about unwanted things, and how yes and no really mean the same thing.
Abraham-Hicks Tabasco In My Pie
So can the Law of Attraction help you with a failed relationship?
In response to this, the first thing I would have to ask would be this, “is it really a failed relationship?”
I know it might seem that the relationship is going in the wrong direction, but understanding that you have given so much attention to the things you do not want from this man, and that he has aligned to your thoughts and feelings about what you do not want and cooperated with your vibration, does this mean that this relationship has failed?
Perhaps if you changed your focus, shifted your thoughts and feelings, and raised your vibration to match the things you do want, at least you would be giving him the opportunity to cooperate with the best of what you offer, rather than the worse.
Will this guarantee that your relationship would improve?
Not at all, but, as you shout yes at the things you are happy with, and offer your unwanted experiences no thought or feeling, if he is able to cooperate with the things you desire, he shall.
But if he cannot cooperate with the vibration that you are holding to your wanted desires, he would not be able to exist in your reality. That would defy Law. Instead, as an un-cooperating part of your reality, he would have to walk away from your vibration, in order for the cooperating parts to assemble.