Dealing With Adult ChildrenWho Struggle.
John, Your counsel has been so helpful in the past, I turn to you again, this time with a matter very dear to me-my daughter and grandchild. My daughter who is 33 now is recovering from drug addiction (5 yrs clean) and I feel so relieved her life has made a turn for the better. Still I see her struggle so hard trying to make ends meet and some of this is the aftermath of bad choices she made when she was using drugs. A felony makes it hard to find work and also housing.
She works as a cook, part-time in two different diners and still is often on the verge of homelessness.
I give her a little cash here and there but I cannot support her not should I.
I suggested she try to "find a thought that feels better" but it sounds like she sees herself so far in the hole, she has a hard time seeing over the edge to something better.
She lives in a city about 300 miles away. So that’s good I think. I recall Abraham saying “Nothing is more debilitating than to care about something you can't do anything about. And you can't do anything about your adult children. You can want better for them, and maybe even begin to provide something for them, but in the long run, you cannot do anything about someone else's vibration other than hold them in the best light you can, mentally, and then project that to them. And sometimes, distance makes that much more possible than being up close to them.” This is easier said than done. Sometimes I worry. Have you anything to add?
Ron Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
Hi Ron, thank you for your question. I have read and re-read the wise words of Abraham, and I do believe that everything that is written is both relevant and true to your circumstances. I am certain that you were attracted this answer from them, however, for your particular situation I am sure that they would elaborate for you and help you to see a little more clearly.
And in your case, if they were given an opportunity to talk to you, person to person, I am sure that as you have such an open and willing to hear mind, the answers that you are open to find, would be easily found.
In my own expedience, as I have come to understand this process and seen people close to me battle with their own realities, and felt the urge to help. Initially I would tell them about the power of their thought, explain the process of attraction, and offer them a way to change everything. Now I do nothing.
You see it is very difficult to explain to someone who has attracted something unwanted, that by changing their thoughts and feelings, they could simply attract something different.
And even if you did get them to listen to your suggestions they would probably give you all the signs of understanding, but do quite the opposite to your suggested ideas, as their reality is more in line with their vibration that any suggestion you can make to change them.
In my own experience, I associate with many people who would certainly benefit from a shift to the positive, but when I used to tell them that, it seemed to define them in their negativity rather than lift their spirits, and over the years I have learnt that if I live by example, when these people are ready to hear me, they shall come forward and ask.
Your suggestion to your daughter of finding thoughts that feel better is a perfect example of your good intention, but when you tell her this, does she listen and act, or does she listen and explain to you why she cannot find that better thought.
Is it not the case that anyone who needs to hear your well-meant suggestions would have to accept that if an improved reality can come through thought, a disappointing one must have been created that way, and there are few people, particularly when times are tough, that are able to take on the responsibility that they created their unwanted experiences.
This is in fact the hole she sees herself down, because to do so she can free herself of the ability to make change, and continue to be the victim she now believes she is.
I would encourage you to read Abrahams answer again, particularly when they say, “you cannot do anything about someone else's vibration other than hold them in the best light you can, mentally, and then project that to them.”
Understand that your suggestion that she looks for the better thought defines her as someone who is not in a happy place, as someone who is struggling, and this definition of her is not you holding her in the best light you can.
Unfortunately for some people they need to hit bottom before they start to look for the answers they need. And for as long as you set the example of how you should think and feel, as long as you align to happiness, when she is ready, I am sure that you will be the first person she turns to, to advice and help her find that better thought.
Remember she has power, she has will, she has strength, she as motivation, she has opportunity, and she has determination. She is one of the few people who has demonstrated these qualities, as she has needed to employ them all to recover from her addictions. As soon as she is ready, she will apply them again, and by your example, and with your support, and in perfect time her experiences will change.
Hold her in the best light you can…
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