Doubts And Fears Derailed A Wonderful Relationship
Last year, I set my intention and believed that I would meet the guy who is perfect for me at an annual get together in my college. When I went for the event, I meet a guy with whom I really, really hit it off. He is much younger than me.
However, since I had not specified age, looks etc in my intention, I decided to have faith in the fact that the Universe knows best, and we started seeing each other exclusively.
In July of this year, he lost both his parents and he was completely devastated. And 2 months after that, I started to get antsy about where the relationship was going. In hindsight I know that my timing was completely off. But I did have a conversation with him and told him that we should break up if it has no future. I started having doubts about everything.
2 months later, he told me that he does not know what he wants, that he is not sure that I am the one, that he is completely confused and it would be better to break it up. Even though my heart broke, I agreed with the break-up.
After the break up he continued initiating contact with me telling me how much he misses me, how much he thinks about me, that he loves me but is not sure about forever etc etc. It got to the point where we started talking about getting back together and taking it slow and seeing where the relationship goes. And then all of a sudden, he tells me that he is emotionally not ready for a relationship. I told him not to contact me again since it was getting really painful for me.
I understand that my doubts and fears derailed what could have been a wonderful relationship. My question is if he is the guy who is perfect for me, as I believed, why did things go wrong?
And is there anything I can do to undo all that has gone wrong?
Can things work themselves out?
I am going to see him at this year's get together in a couple of days. A fast reply would be really appreciated.Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
We all handle the loss of a loved one in different ways. Many people will question their faith, their religion, and their beliefs. Some will question their actions, their past and their responsibilities. Others will re-evaluate their emotions, their feelings and their priorities.
The time of loss often becomes
a time of reflection, and during this reflection the one thing that should remain, is the support, kindness and care of a loving partner.
It is said that there is never a good time to break up with someone, but breaking up, in the hour of someone’s greatest need, is probably the most untimely thing you could have done.
Now your memory is mixed with the emotion of losing his parents, and it is going to be very difficult for anyone to get over this.
I guess what I’m trying to say here, is that it’s not surprising that your getting a confused message from this guy, as he must be very confused about what he feels.
But back to your question which you answered so perfectly….
“I understand that my doubts and fears derailed what could have been a wonderful relationship. My question is if he is the guy who is perfect for me, as I believed, why did things go wrong?”
Exactly….. doubts and fears.
You said at the beginning that, “I decided to have faith in the fact that the Universe knows best, and we started seeing each other exclusively.”
So where did your faith go?
All to often I see people manifesting exactly what they don’t want, through their doubts and fears.
The next part of your question you asked, “Is there anything I can do to undo all that has gone wrong?”
Yes there is. Never once again look back at what has been. You know that you have made mistakes, you know what your fears can bring, and you know that you have hurt this guy.
Nothing can change this, but it is important not to dwell on it, to do everything possible to forgive yourself and to learn from it.
And if you love this guy, you need to let him forgive you to, no matter how long it takes.
Will things work themselves out?
Yes I am sure they will, I am sure that you can intend with the faith and belief you had, I’m sure that you can forgive yourself and let go, I’m sure that you can love yourself and find exactly what you are looking for.
Will you both be together again?
I don’t know, but I am sure that with love, you will wish every happiness that you can, to someone who is obviously so special to you.Law-of-Attraction-Guide.com
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