Help Bring My Ex Back
(Northern Ireland )
I have been with my partner on and off for 3 years while he was at uni (across water) then when he finished we got together but fell pregnant in the first month but were happy and in love then had a second child 20 months after first child! Had our ups and downs but made it work cause we loved each other!
But then one week before my sons first birthday he told me he didn't love me enough to spend the rest of his life with me, he loves me but wants love with someone that he can't live without, I was very confused cause he was still affectionate with me till the end!
He was starting up a business at the time and quite stressed! But as time went on he got nasty saying it was me who had the kids, he didn't want this life and just made the best of what he could!
But we have been separate for nearly 3 months and passing each other for the kids sake he said he's hurting and missing me and just getting through his day, but still thinks its for the best! But I just can't except it cause he was so affectionate with me and always told me he loved me, he was just a bit quiet towards the end, but he told me not too worry he's was just a bit down he would come out of it, but then he landed it on me that he didn't love me deep down!
Even though this has happened I still believe we are meant to be and it's just something he is going through! His mates can't understand why he has done this cause he always told them he loved me so much!
So I try to stay positive but it seems hopeless in ways that he will come back cause he told me he was nearly 100 per cent sure he won't be back!
So my question is, do you think I should stay positive he will be back or move on? Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
To use the Law of Attraction we must focus our thoughts to what we desire, not as something we yearn for or need, but as something that already existed.
This is why we are told to visualize the things we would like to experience. However, it is not by seeing these things that they are magically aligned to us, rather by feeling them, by vibrating with them that we become aligned to events and circumstances that produce them.
But this is not a Law that is reserved for the few, it is Law, and it is through the operation of this Law that all things that vibrate in harmony with each other are drawn together.
You have probably heard the expression, “Birds of a feather flock together,” which is the Law of Attraction at work as people of similar or matching vibrations, tend to share the same experiences.
When you think and feel in a certain way, events happen in your reality that match your thoughts and emotions.
For example, think and feel lonely, then events happen in your reality to help create an experience that matches your lonely thoughts and emotions. Or think and feel happy, then events happen in your reality to help create an experience that matches your happy thoughts and emotions.
But this is not something that we turn on and off when we feel like it, it operates for all people at all times, regardless of who we are and what we believe.
So if your boyfriend thinks and feels lonely, then events happen in his reality to help create an experience that matches his lonely thoughts and emotions. Or if he thinks and feels happy, then
events happen in his reality to help create an experience that matches his happy thoughts and emotions.
Understanding that your experiences are a result of your thoughts, and his experiences are the result of his thoughts, how can you change what you think and feel in order for him to align to a certain reality? That would defy Law.
This is why you cannot use the Law of Attraction to change the reality of another.
There are many people who will say that he aligned you to an unwanted reality, and on the face of it that is how it looks.
I am sure you were thinking and feeling happy when you were together, and you shared a happy experience with him, but this could have only happened if the reality matched the way you both thought and felt.
In other words, you were the cooperating parts of each other’s reality, providing an experience to each other that was a match to each of your thoughts and emotions.
So why would you align to a breakup if the experience it provided in no way matched what you had been thinking and feeling?
Because, even though your thoughts and feelings may have been happiness, if he was no longer able to cooperate with you to provide that happy experience, he must leave your reality.
Or put another way, if his thoughts and feelings had changed to unhappiness, and you could not cooperate with him to provide him with a matching unhappy experience, you must leave his reality.
Either way you look at it, you cannot remain in each other’s experiences providing an un-cooperating reality that does not match what you both think and feel.
Not easy for you when you had got so used to his company providing you with all the desires that you had been focusing on.
But you must remember that happiness is not an experience, it is a state of being, and for as long as you match this state, so will the experiences that you align to.
Happiness is found within, and when it exists within you, it will be recreated for you.
But how can you think and feel happy when your reality no longer represents what is happiness?
By looking for light when everything that exists feels dark.
By reaching for the best thought and the best feeling that you possibly can.
By shining a light upon your life so that you can begin to see it from eyes of gratitude and hope.
A difficult thing to do, particularly when you have just been through a relationship breakup, but it is the only way that you can change your reality.
To start, list and focus on the best experiences that you have right now, and get familiar with all the great things that you have in your life, then, whenever you feel the lack and the sadness of this breakup, use your list of the best of now, to change the way you think and feel.
Remember, happiness is found within, and when it exists within you, it will be recreated for you.
If you need help with this follow my Law of Attraction WorkBook
as it takes you through this process step-by-step and will help you to focus on the positive parts of your now experience.
I hope that you have found this information useful, and if you have any thoughts, or if anyone has any thoughts, please join in and add a comment below…
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