How Can I Believe In Myself More?
I came across the law of attraction about a year ago, and since then I have manifested a lot of things that proved to me that it does indeed work. The only thing I have struggled with is my weight.
All my life I have been extremely skinny, to the point where people sometimes don't believe it is natural and I get comments about it all the time. Since I discovered the law of attraction I got excited about it and decided I could finally gain weight and look more healthy. At first it worked, in a way. I gained about 8 lbs on the scale, but it didn't show at ALL, I actually was told that I look like I LOST weight by most people.
Lately my self esteem and vibration have been extremely low. I cannot get myself to accept my body or to visualize a better body or people accepting my body more. Nothing can bring my spirits up and I have actually lost even more weight.
I have no appetite and eat only two meals a day, sometimes just one meal. I really don't know what to do to get myself out of this.
How can I bring my vibration up and start visualizing a better body? How can I get rid of these limiting beliefs that are holding me back?
Thank you for your timeLaw-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
It has been a necessity to develop, automatic and self-rehearsed, subconscious behaviour patterns, they are essential for our survival, as we need to react quickly to situations that we face from day to day.
Some of these subconscious behaviour patterns work with us, while others will work against us, stopping us from achieving our goals and desires.
These negative behaviour patterns are ideas and beliefs about ourselves that are self-damaging, they are often ideas about our own personality and ability that have we have passed to our subconscious, through bad or undesirable life experiences.
Often these negative ideas and beliefs have come from descriptions given to by members of your family or peer group when you were younger, or possibly negative feedback you get from your spouse, boss, teacher, colleagues, children, parents, relatives, or others, that you take personally, and incorporate into your personal belief system.
In your question you make quite a revealing statement about your state of mind,
“I gained about 8 lbs on the scale, but it didn't show at ALL, I actually was told that I look like I LOST weight by most people.”
Read this statement a few times...
I’ll split it up a bit for you,“I gained about 8 lbs on the scale...”
OK, so you can put on weight! But you gained it on the scale? It’s almost as if you don’t want the 8 lbs, you don’t say “I gained 8 lb”, you almost give it to the scale...“...but it didn't show at ALL”
If you gained 8 lb, it showed! But did you want to see it?“...I actually was told that I look like I LOST weight by most people.”
This is the negative feedback you’ve taken personally, and incorporate into your personal belief system.
The thing is, when it comes to comments from others, most people try to say what they think you want to hear, certainly when it comes to weight.
So, how do you change these negative beliefs?
By using positive affirmations.
Very simply, positive affirmations are short positive statements, designed to replace negative beliefs, with positive self-nurturing beliefs.
A positive affirmation is a sentence that you have said to yourself in determination to succeed, always starting with ‘I will’
or ‘I can’.
When you are writing positive affirmations it is important to structure each thought or statement as a ‘belief’. You must believe.
The bigger the gap between the perceived negative inner truth and the expressed positive affirmations, the more challenging, and possibly the more damaging, this exercise will be.
Therefore, start this exercise using small believable positive thoughts and statements and practise.
Repeat positive affirmations with passion and conviction and for as long as you do so, you will consistently breakdown your subconscious negative beliefs, no matter how ‘set in concrete’ they may seem.
If you are uncomfortable with positive affirmations and statements, take it down a step, listen to your emotions, far better to chip away in small steps, than fall at the foot of an ‘Everest’ of a negative, and undermine the whole process.
Similarly, if you are experiences a sense of exhilaration at an affirmation, you are responding in a way that ‘your mind knows this to be true’, it is working.
Starting this process is the first step, small steps are easier, but finishing each step is the key.
Charles Haanel tell us to “Hold in mind the condition desired and affirm it as an already existing fact”.
Take a look at the Affirmation Exercise and Tools Page,
it would also be worth reading Wallace Wattles book The Science of Being WellUnlock The Power of You
"A Proven, Step-by-Step System Showing YOU,
How To Master The Law of Attraction..."