How can I get back my husband and my little boy. I still love him so much and he doesn’t want me anymore. He took my boy abroad and I really don’t know what I did to him to deserve such a treatment.
I am trying to change and I go even to doctor but he say I didn’t change and he just don’t want to live with me anymore.
I don’t know what should I do. I tried everything but nothing is working. Please help me.
My world will collapse if I don’t have my family back. I cannot live without him and my boy. Is there any black magic to help me. As honestly I even tried The Secret visualisation and it didn’t work.
So many months and nothing. He just let me to talk to my boy on the computer but apart that he doesn’t want to talk to me and if so he has to he is so much impolite, sometimes rude, nervous and I feel he is not ok mentally.
But .... how can I forget him and my boy - I just cant.
It is very easy for me to write answers to these questions, telling people that just by changing the way you feel about something, can change the reality of that something they are experiencing.
Sometimes, and in some cases, doesn’t it sound just to simplistic, and just an easy thing to say, but when it comes to putting into practise, how can you change the way you feel, when what you are experiencing, makes you feel so bad.
This way of feeling is what I call your vibration, and I am often caught telling people to change their vibration now, almost as if it’s a matter of flicking a switch, which I do appreciate it is not.
Never the less, the secret to getting the things you want, is aligning with them vibrationaly, but the way you do that, is another question all together.
So what is this vibration, and how does a vibrational change cause a reality change?
Simply put, your vibration is the way you predominantly think and feel.
It can be said to be positive, or negative, and depending on your vibration, the Law of Attraction will align all cooperative events, people and circumstances, that keeps you in this vibration.
If your vibration tends to be negative, you will be aligned to experiences that make you think and feel more negativity, and if it tends to be positive, then you will be aligned to experiences that make you think and feel more positivity.
This is why Law of Attraction teachers tell you to change your vibration, to change the way you think and feel. It is also why you are told to visualize and practise positive affirmations, as these exercises have an effect of changing the way you feel.
But really, this is also to simplistic.
How can someone go from a very negative vibration to a very positive vibration, when they are experiencing a reality that is so far removed from what they desire?
Even worse, attempting this using visualizations and affirmations could even be compounding your negative emotion, as you experience in your mind the emotions of having your desires now, and then have to face the reality that is so far away from where you want to be.
Often people will use visualization as an ‘asking’ tool, as if the images they see in their visualization, inform the universe of their desires. But this is not the way visualization works.
Visualization is a way of aligning your vibration to your desires, and as you carry this vibration with you, the universe responds by aligning events to match this vibration
But it would be to much to expect that you could carry this vibration of what you most wish, when your reality is so much of what you don’t wish.
It would be helpful to think of your vibration as neither positive or negative, but just as an indication as to how far away you are from the vibration, or the experience, of having your desires now.
For instance, if you had your husband and little boy back with you now, your vibration could be said to be one of joy, of elation, delight, exultation and euphoria.
But, if you do not have this experience, your vibration could be any number of emotions.
It could be excitement as you anticipate this experience. It could be of hope, as you pray for this experience. Or it could be frustration, anger or powerlessness.
I have no doubt that your vibration, as you experience this unwanted reality, is as far away from the vibration of joy, elation, delight, exultation and euphoria, as it could be. And trying to make the jump from powerlessness to euphoria would be an impossible task for anyone.
One of the biggest problems people have when they try to apply the Law of Attraction to their lives, is that they try to make the jump from an extreme vibration of not having, to an extreme vibration of having, and they find it such a huge gap to bridge, that they often end up right back where they started.
You cannot go from powerlessness to joy, nor could you go from powerlessness to excitement, or hope, but you can go from powerlessness to anger, and anger is a much closer vibration to ‘having it now’, at least you have your power back.
Admittedly, a vibration of anger will align you to things that make you angry, but better to be aligned to things that make you angry, than to things that make you powerless and depressed.
Once you are in a vibration of anger, you can start to look for another vibration, which is nearer to where you want to be, possibly revengefulness.
I’m not suggesting that you act out revenge, but you can feel revenge, and as you do you have more power than you did when you were depressed, and more power than you did when you were angry.
From revenge you can then move on to frustration, to forgiving, and then on to hope.
From hope you can start to move to belief and faith, and from here, to anticipation, to excitement, and eventually onto joy.
And as you move through each vibration you shall see the results of your thought in your experience. Your hope will bring you hopeful circumstances, your belief will bring you evidence of things to have faith about, your anticipation will bring your desires closer, your excitement shall make you look forward…
And your joy shall bring you your wishes.
Abraham Hicks Quotes Moving Up The Emotional Scale
There are a number of ways to help you move up this emotional scale.