How Do I Get The Love of My Life Back

by Joanne
(Ireland)

I have recently broken up with my boyfriend. I have never felt a love so strong and deep as the love I have for him and I would do anything to get him back. I have only recently discovered The Secret and am completely intrigued by it... Can I use The Secret to win him back? My heart is breaking.


From reading The Secret I am focusing my thoughts on all the goods things in life, he by far is my best. We have so much fun together and were planning to get married.

We are from different religions and our parents would not give their blessing, something that he could not accept and broke off our relationship.

I am broken and want him back more that anything else in this world.

Can anyone please give me advice?

Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply

You create your reality and your experiences, and you do this by focusing your thoughts and feelings. In other words, your reality is a match to whatever you focused thoughts and feelings are.

I refer to these focused thoughts and feelings as your vibration, and it is through your vibration that the Law of Attraction brings, all matching cooperative opportunities, events and people to you.

However, your boyfriend also creates his reality and his experiences. His reality is a match to whatever his focused thoughts and feelings are.

This is his vibration, and through his vibration the Law of Attraction brings, all matching cooperative opportunities, events and people to him.

In understanding this, there is no way that you can adjust your vibration to manifest a different reality for him. That would defy Law.

It is definitely good practise to focus your thoughts on all the good things in life, by doing so, you are focusing your thoughts and feelings on the good things you have, and as you do, you shift your vibration to these good things, and all matching cooperative opportunities, events and people are brought to you, through the Law of Attraction.

In other words, by focusing on the good stuff, you attract more good stuff to you.

But I have a major concern about this, as you said, “From reading The Secret I am focusing my thoughts on all the goods things in life, he by far is my best. We have so much fun together and were planning to get married.”

You are focusing on the good things in your life, yet the main focus is on something you do not have.

You are focusing your thoughts and feelings on a relationship you lack.

By doing this, you activate a greater feeling of lack, more thoughts of lack, and you add the lack of this relationship to your vibration, and all matching cooperative opportunities, events and people are brought to you, through the Law of Attraction.

In other words, by focusing on the lack of this relationship, you attract more lack to you.

The purpose of focusing your thoughts on all the good things in life, is to adjust your vibration to the good things you have, you switch your focus from the experiences you are missing, and adjust your vibration to the good things you have going on.

This helps you to focus your thoughts on what you want, without feeling the lack of having it now.

But you must remember that you cannot manifest in another’s reality, and all your aspirations should be You orientated. They must be goals that you have power and control over.

That is not to say that this relationship cannot come back together, but it is important for you to let this go, so that you can stop vibrating the lack of this.

It may be helpful for you to introduce him to these ideas, so that he could possibly take some of these ideas on board, but you need to understand that his Religion ‘rules’ could be a stumbling block to big for him to overcome, and he may not be able to get over this.

I would also suggest that you read Neale Donald Walsh’s book, Conversations with God, it will give you a deeper understanding of God and our purpose, it’s a wonderful book, and if you could get him to read it to, it may help you.

Abraham-Hicks book The Vortex: Where the Law of Attraction Assembles All Cooperative Relationships, is also well worth reading.

It is also extremely important to focus your thoughts on all the good things about him, not as a condition of being together, but because you love him and you wish him the greatest happiness he could have.

When you do this, you shift your vibration the best parts of him, and if he does change his focused thoughts and feelings to be back with you, you will be a cooperative match to his positive vibration, instead of an uncooperative match to the lack of him.

If you have any thoughts, or if anyone has any thoughts, please join in and add a comment below…


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May 26, 2010
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Best answer
by: Anonymous

I think this has been the best answer/explanation on attracting a lost love back. Thanks so much. Makes a lot of sense.

Jun 08, 2010
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I don´t get it
by: Anonymous

But there is something I don´t understand.

You say “You are focusing your thoughts and feelings on a relationship you lack. By doing this, you activate a greater feeling of lack”.

According to the LOA, you are supposed to focus on what you want, and feel as though you already have it. But those things we want are things that we are lacking.

Then you say “This helps you to focus your thoughts on what you want, without feeling the lack of having it now.” Can´t you do the same with that person you love, focusing on him/her, on the good things and on a future life together?

Thank you very much

Jun 09, 2010
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by: efsun


I think what is meant there is that you should be focusing on a beautiful relationship but not with a specific person but just feeling like you have the love of your dreams at this very moment as if it already exists.. The reason you can not or shouldn't do it with another person is because you can not create in their reality.. imagine if that person is putting all his energy into focusing on someone else or just having negative thoughts all the time then how can your vibrations ever match? so you just create your reality while he creates his and if both of you want the same thing then who knows maybe you will end up together eventually and if not then something even better will come your way.. so the only important thing here is to stay positive and only focus on love and happiness without feeling the lack of having it.. Hope that makes sense..

Jun 10, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Much better. Thanks a lot.

Sep 05, 2010
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feedback
by: Alex

We are in September now. Did any of these work at all? Are you guys back together?

Nov 25, 2010
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Where's this going?
by: Anonymous

Seriously, has this worked out for the best? Is everyone happy now?

But this page and the comments have suddenly freed me from an overwhelming problem in my own life. Thank you so much!!

Mar 08, 2011
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What if he is unsure or undecided??
by: Verite

I understand what John is saying here - to put it in basic words, if you want the relationship but your ex doesn't, then the LOA can't help you. You both want different things and you can't force someone else to want you back.

However, what if your ex is UNSURE about what he/she wants? What if he/she is confused? Or unclear? Or undecided? In such cases, surely all it takes is for him/her to be open-minded and then your use of the LOA will win back his/her heart again?

This happened to me once. Before I started dating my partner, I was unclear about whether I really wanted her. But I kept an open mind and she used the LOA to attract me (I know as when I first saw her apartment, it had pictures of me everywhere, like a giant vision board!). My want was not to be with her but because I was open to her vibrations, she was able to win my heart. And win my heart she did!!

Jun 07, 2011
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Complicated Love
by: Breezy

I love someone, and he left me for someone else. Then a few months go by and he wants me back and says hes a changed man and realizes what he's lost. He says he knows what he has to do to keep a positive mind and keep a healthy positive lifestyle and he wants to share that experience with me if i give him the chance. Do i forgive and let our energies reunite again or do i let it go and move on? I still love him very much, i just don't want him to walk away again.

Nov 18, 2012
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i want to settle with my dream lover
by: Anonymous

I was in a loving relationship for these last five years but always on and off, cause the problem between us was that he was afraid to settle cause he used to live by his own, although he loved me and he always admit it.

When he talked to me and told me that he didn't know what he wanted in his life about settlement with me, I started to cry with him and even got angry with him, but I always forgive him and be back together, when he call me back, cause I know we love each other very much and although we tried to stay apart from each other, it never works cause we think about each other every day and even missing each other, especially me.

I am remembering the intimate moments and the nice things we had in the relationship, so I was very happy with him,

Now I read The Secret and I begin to imagine that he is going to call me again and is going to settle with me and even sometimes I feel his presence near me when I begin to meditate, I am believing that this is going to happen cause I know that there was true love between us, I also bought an orgone device red pendant to help my vibration when I pray.

So how much time did this pendant start to work? And I need to know the methods exactly how to use it when I meditate or pray and what I have to do with this orgone pendant?.

I wish to settle with him and I wish him to someday asked me to marry him, cause I know that we are going to have happy marriage together, cause there is a big chemistry between us. What do I have to do?

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