Law of Attraction And Being With My True Love

by Sheila
(Swansea, MA)

Over the last few months I have been with a man that I had a relationship with almost 20 years ago. We remained friends, and the past 2 years he's been calling a lot and wanting to go out, but I was not mentally ready for any relationship and he respected that..


But these past few months we started seeing each other. Everything was perfect, in fact I fell in love with him all over again. And this time around I could feel and see how much he loves me.

I did express to him how I felt about him and he said, he is happy and feels the same way, but is scared...and so am I, and I told him.

But about a month ago something came up with his son. He told me that he need time to work things out and he also needs time to sort things out for himself.

He told me it was nothing to do with me, in fact that I am the only woman for him and he does love me very much. He just needs time.

Well I haven't been so good with giving him is time.. I sent him a letter, I've called, I've sent him a card, and one day he called and said he would call me later that day so we could talk.. He never called.

I've called twice since then and he hasn't called me back, and all this time I have been trying to focus on bringing him back... I do struggle with staying positive and I’ve just done reading a lot of stories here, and see that I've doing things wrong.

What I am asking is…

I know he loves me because he's told me he does and I feel it when we are together. I know your going to say STOP calling him, but it’s so hard..

Please guide me in doing this the right way so I can get the man that I love and the man that loves me back into my life.

I've been writing things down like, “You still love me, you miss me, you always think about me, we will always be together and you will always be mine.” What else can I do?

Help!

Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply

I want to share with you how many relationships start, develop and eventually grow apart, not because I think that you are following this pattern, but because the idea may help you to see what you are doing a little clearer.

When two people are attracted to each other romantically, they each tend to look at each other in excited anticipation that this new partner may be the one.

In their quest to discover if they are the one, they look for patterns of behaviour that please them. Things they like, things that excite them and things that draw them to each other.

Their thoughts and feelings of ‘what do I like about this person’, leads to the things they like being noticed, and as these qualities are witnessed and experienced, they add to the excitement, the thrill and the delicious discovery of their perfect partner.

This continues in the earlier part of the relationship, as more and more perfect things are discovered. More and more pleasing patterns of behaviour are found, until, when both parties enter their complete bliss, they decide to commit to their partner for life.

Now married, and now happy in discovery of the knowing perfection between each other, they begin to share their every moment.

After some time, one or both of the parties may act in a way that displeases the other, it is noticed, thought about, argued about and discussed. It is offered thought and feeling, and as this behaviour is witnessed and experienced, all to often, these once perfect partners now start to put pressure on each other to try and remove the unwanted experience.

And eventually as more and more of this unwanted behaviour is experienced, the marriage ends and these perfect partners go their separate way.

Well believe it or not, this is the Law of Attraction, in action.

You see, the Law of Attraction matches your experience to your focused thoughts and feelings.

As you can see, the focused thoughts and feelings of each partner in this example, were always a match to the experiences they received.

In the beginning, their thoughts and feelings of excited anticipation of finding the things they liked most about their partner, were matched by the experience of seeing the things that pleased them the most.

And as this relationship grew, their thoughts and feelings about things they did not like about their partner, were matched by the experience of seeing the things they disliked.

In any situation, or in any relationship, it is not the behaviour of another that can make us sad or happy, it is our response to that behaviour. This is because, if we offer unwanted experiences thought and feeling, we align with unwanted experiences.

So to your question….

To begin with, there is no right or wrong in this, but you have to understand what your phoning has done.

You both confessed your love, he needed time to sort something out, you gave him that time, and then tried to take it away.

Now what does that tell him about the trust you have for him?

By all means phone, but to me a call to say I’m sorry for badgering you, and I’ll be waiting for you, because I love you and trust that you feel the same way, would be the only call I would be likely to make.

Secondly, I’m glad to see that you have been writing things down, but everything you have written is about the way he feels, “You still love me, you miss me, you always think about me, we will always be together and you will always be mine.”

It sounds to me that you are writing down your worse fears, and you are trying to make sure that he continues to feel in this way. so that you don’t have to experience your worse fears.

Don’t forget that the Law of Attraction matches your experience to your focused thoughts and feelings, and if you focus on your worse fears, your worse fears will be realized.

It’s time to take a step back from the brink of disaster, it’s time for you to focus on your desires and your wishes. It’s time for you to design your life from the perspective of what you want, instead of becoming a victim of misplaced thought.

Remember our story and take a lesson from it….

When two people are drawn together, or attracted to each other romantically, they each tend to look at each other in excited anticipation that this new partner may be the one.

In their quest to discover if they are the one, they look for patterns of behaviour that please them. Things they like, things that excite them, things that draw them to each other.

Their thoughts and feelings of ‘what do I like about this person’, leads to the things they like being noticed, and as these qualities are witnessed and experienced, they add to the excitement, the thrill and the delicious discovery of their perfect partner.


Now start a new list entitled ‘The Things I Like Best’, write down all the things you like best about this man, all the experiences you enjoy and make you feel good.

Write down how he makes you feel, and spend sometime getting into that feeling.

Spare no thought to your fears, your worries and your insecurities, and if one of these negative ideas pop into your head, affirm everything that is good.

Think the good thoughts, and feel the good feelings. Align yourself to the very best of what this relationship has given you, and as you focus your thoughts and feelings on the very best, the very best shall be your experience.

If you have any thoughts, or if anyone has any thoughts, please join in and add a comment below…


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Dec 19, 2010
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Dealing with similar issues
by: Melanie

I'm dealing with a similar issue. I didn't treat my love too well (I didn't cheat), refused to let him move to my state and was a bit of a witch some of the time.

After three years of dating, I let up and dropped my guard but he'd already given up, saying he didn't want to be hurt anymore.

He was really in love with me and now, not so much. I'm ready to be "all in" and together forever. I was going to fly up and visit but was rebuffed and feel terrible/discouraged.

But since I know about the Law of Attraction, I: Physically - made room in my house, closet, bathroom etc.

Mentally - journal things I love about him, try to see us together, script good feeling events.

I'm either doing to much or not enough. I feel very rejected and like giving up but I know what we had was awesome. There's no one else like him. Frustrating.

So, any advice? I was an idiot and want my man back. Help please! :0(

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by: Inner strength

To the comment above. Just a few thoughts on what you wrote. Rejection, frustration those are both negative thought patterns which will be inhibiting all the previous work you have been doing.

One thing I believe many forget about the law of attraction is that the universe has its own timing. It is more when you least expect it that you will recieve.

Please try to put those negative thoughts at bay.

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