Law of Attraction And Healing A Relationship
I've been with my partner for about a year and lately, things are not as good as they were before. I decided to end the relationship and we both agreed that we needed some time apart and, if later on we were still willing, we were going to give it another try.
I love him so much and I've taken this time to heal myself from all the pain and bad experiences I lived in the past (not with him), that brought problems to our relationship.
My question is: I know my intentions and thought can't affect his feelings or desires, but I wonder if I should still do the exercise of writing down all the goods things in our relationship, and the things I love about him?
Also, will it work if I visualize ourselves together again by looking at our pictures?
I've noticed that since I started doing it I've been running into him in weird places and for some reason he seems more interested in hearing about me and trying to talk to me.Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
When it comes to relationships of any kind, it is common for many, if not most people, to spend their time focusing on the unwanted way that people behave.
If you ever hear anyone talking about their work colleges, their bosses, their friends, their husbands and wives, or anyone who they are in contact with, it is usual for many people to point out the worst behaviour of these people.
And they usually use their complaining as their excuse for not being happy, here’s what I mean.
... work would be much better if my boss wasn’t so mean, or my colleges weren’t so bitchy, or if the customers were more patient.
... my husband would be a better companion if he gave me more attention, wasn’t so uninterested in what I did, or if he did more around the house.
... my marriage would be perfect if my wife didn’t nag so much, if she let me go out, or didn’t complain at me watching the TV.
What they are saying, in each of these examples is this…
“My experiences would be a match to my desires, if the people who I associate with changed the way they behaved, and once they have changed their behaviour, I will no longer feel this negative emotion.”
What they are failing to understand here is this…
“The negative emotion they have, is the cause of the negative behaviour they see, and as much as they push against their unwanted experiences, the stronger they bring these experiences in to their reality.”
This is how the Law of Attraction works. The negative emotion is your vibration, and it is through that vibration, that all matching harmonious conditions are brought into your experience.
To try and change an experience by chasing away the people who are bringing that experience, will only bring more people to offer that same experience.
If you wish to change an experience,
then the only action you need take, is to change the feelings that you have toward that experience, and then, as the Law of Attraction matches all harmonious vibrations, the new experience that matches your vibration, shall be brought to your reality.
So should you still do the exercise of writing down all the goods things in your relationship?
Yes absolutely, but please understand that you are not trying to change a reality, you are not trying to get him back, what you are doing is adjusting your vibration to match the best that he has to offer.
And as you become a vibrational match to this preferred behaviour, it enables him to offer you a match to your vibration.
Or… In much the same way, if he is not a harmonious match to your positive vibration, he will vibrate right out of your reality.
But I wouldn’t stop there. I would do this exercise of writing down all the goods things in all your relationships.
To the next part of your question, “will it work if I visualize ourselves together again by looking at our pictures?”
To be honest, I would not visualize on this at all.
You see the more emphasis you put on being back together, the more you will notice that you are not together now, and as you are noticing not being together now, you offer this feeling.
Feeling is thought, and as you focus more on being together, this feeling and thought of not being together becomes more focused.
And of course, the more focused the thoughts and feelings, the more you add them to your vibration, and of course, the more lack of something you put into your vibration, the more lack of that thing you will find in your reality.
Concentrate your time on the best of the people you are in contact with, and let go of the lack of the experiences you are receiving.
The very fact that you are changing your vibration, is more than likely the cause of these coincidental meetings you’ve been noticing.
Rather than visualizing, I would suggest that you practise some meditations. I use Vipassana Meditation and I am sure it will help you, take a look at the UrbanDharma.org Website
for some great information, you can also download an eBook on Vipassana called Mindfulness in Plain English
You also mention getting over a past bad experience, which is an extremely important step to take. I don’t know how you are getting on with that, but if you need any help try Heal Your Unconscious Pain by Chris Dines.Click Here To Read Heal Your Unconscious Pain
it is written in pdf, so you’ll need Adobe Reader
to read it (you should have it on your PC).
I hope these ideas help in some way, and please feel free to comment.Law-of-Attraction-Guide.com
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