LOA Advice On Arranged Marriages
I've been reading about for a while now, and I know what I want, I'm just not sure how to apply the LOA to this specific problem.
I am in a serious relationship, and it's amazing. We both are very much in love with each other and want a future together.
I am from a culture where arrange marriages are common, my parents have 'arranged' me to be with someone else. This someone else wants this to go on, and take this further.
I really don't want to go against my parents, and I can't imagine leaving my love, and thinking about a life with a complete stranger.
How would I use LOA in this complicated situation, I have been trying to think positively, but I really don't want anything to do with the other guy, I just wish he would disappear.
Thanks for your help!Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
The Law of Attraction says this, “we attract into our lives whatever we give our Attention, Energy and Focus to. Whether wanted or unwanted.”
In other words, the things we tend to think about, the way that we feel, and the things that preoccupy us, tend to turn up in our experiences, whether they are good or bad.
So if you think about bad things, have a fear about them happening to you, and worry about them, they will tend to turn up in your reality. Similarly, if you think about good things, get excited about doing these things, and look forward to good things coming, good things will tend to turn up in your reality.
That being said, if this is a Law, then it applies to everyone. What everyone tends to give their Attention, Energy and Focus to, ends up being manifested in their lives, whether they want it or not.
If then, this is a Law for everyone, there is no way that you can use it to change another’s reality, that would defy Law, it would defy the ability of an individual to create the life of their choice, it goes against the principle of responsibility and of free will. Which incidentally, is the very thing that disturbs you about your own reality.
If it was possible for someone to change another’s experiences through the power of thought, then wouldn’t it be possible for your parents to get you to comply with their wishes, just by using a stronger will than you.
Ok, so how can you deal with this situation, and have everything turn out, as you want it?
Applying the Law of Attraction will not enable you to avoid difficult circumstances. Neither will it enable you to avoid difficult decisions. However, complying with this way of thinking will enable you to cope with these difficult circumstances and decisions more effectively.
This first thing to understand, is that you will not be able keep everyone happy. You must either, follow your heart and go against the wishes of your parents, or you must follow the wishes of your parents, and go against your heart.
As I have already stated, “there is no way that you can use it to change another’s reality, that would defy Law, it would defy the ability of an individual to create the life of their choice,
it goes against the principle of responsibility and of free will.”
Therefore, through the Laws of the Universe it must be up to the individual to create the life of their choice, it must be a principle that the individual has the responsibility of free will. It must then be up to you to choose your destiny, and your life experiences. It follows Law.
If you have any doubt that the arrangement of marriage is an outdated practise that has no place in a modern world, read this answer to a reader I gave on the caste issue
However, it is only for you to decide on your destiny, which is a decision that only you can make.
Yes the Law of Attraction can help, it will help you to come to terms with your decision, it will help you find harmony, it will help you to avoid unnecessary conflict, and it will help you to be happy.
If you do decide to go with your heart, it is inevitable that you may have some issues to sort out with your parents. But as much as it is inevitable, it is important to stick to the issues, and not to be tempted into a general argument or slanging match about anything and everything.
Always remember that from their point of view, your parents will always have your best interests at heart, even if you don’t agree that an arranged marriage is in your best interests.
Adopt an attitude of gratitude.. It keeps your awareness on the positive aspects of your life, and stops you from focusing on the negatives aspects. I would strongly urge you to write down all the positive things about your parents, list everything you enjoy, everything you share and everything you love. Start each morning reading through your list, saying, “I am so grateful that my parents offer me _____________.”
As you go about your day you may get waves of negative emotions, be it fear, frustration, criticism or guilt. As soon as you catch these negative thoughts, forget them, which means Get Something For Them….
Replace your negative thought with a practised positive thought, a thought of gratitude, or a positive aspect of your parents. Repeat this positive statement, over and over. You see a negative thought cannot exist in the place of a positive, and with practise, you will no longer return to your negative way of thinking.
If things become difficult, you need to let go and forgiveness is the key to do this.
True forgiveness allows you to grow, to expand, to move forward and gives you the power to look at the contrast of what you like and don’t like, and choose the experiences you wish to have, not move from one experience to another by default.
True forgiveness is power…… Your power.
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