by Bev King
I have spent a great amount of my time studying the Law of Attraction, as well as Astrology, the ego concept, and most recently the Emotional Freedom Technique. I also have a Science Degree in Psychology, have read many self-help books, and have been counselling people for over 10 years (I’m an Employment Counsellor).
It’s a funny thing but I was actually quite depressed and agitated throughout my university years. It wasn’t until I realized that I could change the way I think that things began to change in my life. It’s been a long journey and I am still learning. I would like to share with you some of the points I have found to be true in my life:
1. The act of WANTING will most certainly drive the object of my affection away from me. I recently applied for a position that I was fully qualified for (and that everyone thought I would get). HOWEVER, my intense WANTING (and anxiety about it) only brought more of the same. Needless to say, I wasn’t offered the position.
2. The Emotional Freedom Technique, when combined with the law of attraction, is a truly magical combination. Learn about EFT! The concept was spearheaded by Gary Grant and there are many related great video’s on YouTube.
3. I reap what I sow. It doesn’t matter how good I feel or what I manifest, If I fail to treat others with love and respect then I can’t expect to receive these affections in return. Astrology has taught me a lot about this concept. What goes around does indeed come around!
4. Butt Out!! If I try to control others (or life in general), it will backfire on me. If I want to be free, then I must let my loved ones fly free. I can’t avoid other people’s mistakes for them, and whenever I think I can, all I am really doing is taking the lesson that my loved one needed to learn away from him.
5. If I can’t believe something then I take a moderate approach (stop the all or nothing thinking). I used to be a pretty heavy smoker. It was difficult for me to imagine myself as a non-smoker. I just wasn’t able to generate that vibe needed to manifest a “non-smoking me”. So, I believed that I was a “part-time” smoker instead. That was 2 years ago and I still only smoke about 4-5 cigarettes a day, which is a lot better, then the 15 I used to smoke. I don’t beat myself up, I accept myself and I love myself fully and deeply just as I am right now in this moment. I believe that my own negative emotions will do more harm to my body then anything else. And if I’m wrong, that’s ok, because my purpose is not to know everything.
6. We are all different and need to follow our own path so, I TAKE WHAT I NEED AND FORGET THE REST! As an example, I would like to mention a co-worker of mine who recently watched The Secret. Although she found many of the concepts enlightening in the first part of the film, some of the content towards the end of the film clashed with her personal religious views. Her instant reaction was to become deeply offended. She even wrote a note to the facilitators who presented the film expressing her distaste! And the result of her reaction (i.e. negative emotional vibe created by her thoughts) was just as you would expect. She got back what she gave, cynicism. If she had consciously chosen to take only what she needed from the film and to leave the rest behind, she would have been able to celebrate a feeling of gratitude, a feeling that would bring more positive into her life.
7. All anyone really wants from me is genuineness. They want to be genuine themselves but that underlying “I’m not quite good enough” feeling creeps in and prevents us from being our true selves. I dare to be weird, wacky, different, funny, boring or whatever and I am always surprised by how much love comes my way. I used to think it was a bad thing to tell my clients about my personal faults and failures “NO MORE”. One of the biggest lessons I have learned so far in my life is that sharing my failures and shortcomings (with the intent of helping) brings more joy into my life. I can simply be my strange self and all will be ok. Aren’t we all strange?
8. I learn about the ego. I would recommend Eckhart Tolle’s “A New Earth”. Understanding the ego is critical to finding peace and self-acceptance. Also, failure to understand the ego can seriously impede your manifestations. A good example of this would be those “rich and famous people” who are still miserable. This is what happens when we manifest the desires of the ego only. Beyond the ego lies the truest wisdom of all, the inner spirit who is waiting to offer its gifts to the world!
9. I look for examples of the Law of Attraction in my life. They are most definitely there. In fact, it is now a part of my normal thinking, that everything in my life is something I brought into being. When you can see the evidence, believing is so much easier.
Here’s an example that just happened. I work in a very busy environment where I’m relied upon almost constantly. When I came into work this morning, I wasn’t feeling the greatest so I decided to do a Google search on the Law of Attraction and testimonials. Well, this is the site that came up, I read several stories, and immediately felt inspired to write this message (which believe or not has taken 3 hours). I focused all of my attention on this and guess what? The universe once again opened a door for me. My clients ended up rescheduling and I was able to take as long as I needed to write this message without interferences.
Thank you universe, I am so grateful that I was able to offer the message of love today.
With Love and Gratitude,