Mixed Feelings About A Relationship
My current relationship started in a weird way. It was an arranged marriage by a religion I no longer believe in. Although I have learned to love this person, I'm not sure I'm attracted to him and I have mixed feelings about being in a relationship at all.
On one hand, it seems like this relationship might be a good thing because he is a good person and we care about each other. But on the other hand, I didn't choose it, I don't feel "chemistry" and I sometimes wonder if there is something else for me out there.
I think what I want most is clarity about whether or not to continue being in this relationship. Is there a way to use the Law of Attraction for this situation?
Would it make sense to try to manifest the 'perfect' relationship if you are in one?Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
At the start of a romantically found relationship, many people follow a similar pattern.
To begin with, when they first get together, they are in excited anticipation as they wonder and dream, “is this the one.” And as this wondering and dreaming grows, the Law of Attraction gives them many situations, examples and experiences, that lead them to believe that this indeed, is the one.
This is because their vibration is of excited anticipation and happiness, and the Law of Attraction is lining them up with experiences that match that vibration.
This excitement leads them to notice all the patterns of behaviour in their newly found romance, which are a positive match to them. They start to think thoughts like, “because of his behaviour on this subject, I am much happier…” And as they are offering thoughts to these positives, they include it in their vibration, and of course, the Law of Attraction responds by sending them more experiences that match their positive vibration.
Invariably though, the excitement tends to fall away, the vibration becomes less, and inevitably the experience becomes less intense.
This fall in excitement often leads people to start notice all the patterns
of behaviour in their romance that are a negative match to them. They start to think thoughts like, “if he would change his behaviour on this subject, then I would be much happier…” And as they are offering thoughts to these negatives, they include it in their vibration, and of course, the Law of Attraction responds by sending them more experiences that match their new, less positive vibration.
To stop following this pattern, I would encourage people to daily visualize the positive aspects of all their relationships, to never dwell on any negative thoughts about their interactions with others, and to never expect or demand change from other people, in order for them to be happy.
By doing this, they will be including only positive interactions with others into their vibration, and the Law of Attraction will respond by lining them up with only positive interactions with other people, in their reality.
Although you have not followed this traditional pattern of romance, I would certainly recommend that you visualize the positive aspects of your husband, as you must certainly have an extremely strong bond to have developed this love and care about each other.
Yes I understand that this relationship may lack ‘chemistry’, but let’s be honest, most ‘chemistry’ is felt in the initial excited stage of a relationship, which you missed. And any ‘chemistry’ must be worked on, in any relationship, if it is to last.
I think that once you have given these techniques a chance, and seen how your marriage develops, that only then should you make a consideration to other people.
If you are giving your marriage the right attention and vibration, then you are giving it a chance, and as long as you are continuing to grow, it could work.
However, if you have given your marriage the right attention and vibration, and you do not continue to grow, then maybe you have some hard decisions to make.Law-of-Attraction-Guide.com
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