Not Attracting Another Dead End Relationship
I was in a very intense relationship for only 3 months. I thought he and I were going to go all the way, it seemed like all of the piece of the puzzle were fitting together. Then all of a sudden he started to get really depressed and withdraw from me. I started to notice that he was leaning on a woman friend way too much. They texted and emailed and called way too often.
When I confronted him, he defended her, and made me fell like I was stupid. A few months ago we found out his job is moving him to Guam, and he quickly dropped me like a hot rock. He is however still talking to his "friend".
We have been broken up for three months now, and there is a part of me that wants him back, and a part of me that wants more, and deserves a better, healthier relationship.
How do I attract what I want?
I'm pretty sure my test is to get over him, and find a better man, but how do I attract that, and not attract another dead end relationship with a man who won’t commit?Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply
To get to a last point first and remove this idea of trials and tests, it is by no way a test to get over anything, and certainly you will never have to find anything a trial to be in a more deserving place.
But, of course, you have to get over him. You have no choice. You cannot change his reality, you cannot change his thoughts, and to stay in a place that you are ‘just wishing’ him back will only bring you more and more experiences to miss someone or something else.
In other words, if you vibrate a lack of anything, then that vibration will cause you to feel a lack in the future.
So I would say that rather than try to find a man to fill the void that you feel you have been left with, I would at first, fill that void, before looking for the man.
What I mean is this…
You are in a place where you are feeling the lack of something, you are feeling that you have been in a dead end relationship, and want to avoid finding another dead end relationship.
So you feel lack, and you know what you don’t want again, and of course, as
you feel these things, they have become a part of your vibration. So if you start your search for your next relationship from where you are now, what you will bring to your experience is this…
Another dead end relationship that ends just like the last one, and puts you right back in the feeling of being mistreated, let down, and used.
And of course, because you are right back where you started, you start the whole process off again.
This is what I call default attraction. Yes you know what you want, yes you understand that you create your own reality, but unless you take control of your own thoughts and feeling, you will always follow this same sort of path.
So for your next step, rather than defining what you want, spend some time aligning to yourself. Appreciate yourself, love yourself, make lists of the good things of you, and spend sometime being happy where you are now.
I would meditate on this, I would write affirmations about this, I would spend all my time removing all negative thought about my now current situation, and fill my mind with every aspect of positivity I have, or wanted to have.
Vipassana Meditation will help you. Take a look at the UrbanDharma.org Website
for some great information, you can also download an eBook on Vipassana called Mindfulness in Plain English
EFT is another easy to use technique, and can be used to tackle emotional issues and limiting beliefs.
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, you’ll discover how to uncover your limiting beliefs, and how to construct good affirmations as positive intentions. We also use some EFT techniques, on this course.
Once you have aligned to yourself, once you are in a place of happiness and contentness, you would then start to define what it is you really want, (not what you want to avoid), and because you are attracting from a position of happiness, and aligning to the best of the people you meet, opportunities for a happy, fulfilling relationship will walk right into your reality.Law-of-Attraction-Guide.com
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