The Law of Attraction And Missing And Needing
About 2 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me, because he couldn't trust me anymore. My boyfriend had been in a real bad relationship before, where his ex took advantage of him and cheated on him continuously. When we began our relationship we both new we were coming in with different issues, but I look at him as just him, not the person who had hurt me before. It seems he can't do that.
I made the mistake of speaking to someone from my past, with whom I’d had a casual relationship. That hurt my boyfriend and proved to him that he couldn’t trust me. I tried to explain that the contact with the other person was not anything important, but he didn't care and broke up with me. He has told me several times that he is angry at me and hurt, that I have betrayed him, though I’ve done everything to reassure him of how important he is to me, and how much I love him and no one else.
With all this and his anger, he tells me he can't be with me. I tell him all the time I love and miss him, I've told him if he doesn't care and doesn't want to hear it, I'll stop saying it, but he tells me he cares and it does matter.
At times we talk and it's like we are still happy and together, but then he will turn and be mad and horrible to me. He visits several times a week and just recently grilled me, as to if I was seeing someone else, and after I declared my undying and forever love for him, he did the same. He told me days later that it's not right that he did that and that he wants me to redo my life and continue on....knowing full well that what I feel for him I’ve never had and felt for anyone else.
I'm at my wit’s end and don't know what to do. I know he loves me, I believe he does, he goes around telling everyone the same, he loves me, misses me but is mad at me....
What can I do? I know the Law of Attraction won't bring him back. But I believe that if I focus on the good positive things, and remind him of that, it may change him and rid him of the anger.
I've written down what I'm grateful for in life. What I appreciate about him every day and have improved my disposition and look on life since watching The Secret.
But I have no clue where to go from here? What do I do? I love him more than anything, miss him horribly. He knows that and in a way I feel that's what he wants me to realize and he's enjoying al the attention. But I want him back...I know our future will be great and just like in The Secret, I've written down what I know, believe and perceive our future to be.....I've been told to let him go and move on...once I do...he'll come back...as if a sudden realization will hit him.
Please help me.....I need him and want him in my life...without him I have no clue where I go and I've lost my home and place in the world.
You are right, you cannot use the Law of Attraction to bring him back, but what you can do, is align to the experience you desire, so that the Law of Attraction can manifest that experience for you.
I know that you will say that the experience you desire would be to be with him, but strictly speaking, he is not an experience. He is a
source of an experience.
What I mean is this…..
Before, when you were in a loving caring relationship, he was the source of that loving caring relationship.
Now that you are without that loving and caring relationship, he is the source of you being without.
You see, you cannot have it both ways. You cannot manifest a loving and caring relationship, when the only source that you see for this reality, is the source of your ‘without’ reality now.
But does that mean letting him go?
It really depends on what you mean by letting him go. To be honest, the relationship now, has gone, so in effect you have no choice but to let him go, this has already been forced upon you. But to be more accurate, you need to let these feelings go.
Not the feelings of love and care, but the feelings of being so much ‘without’ him.
The Law of Attraction will always match your reality to your vibration, that is, whatever your predominant thoughts and feelings are today, the corresponding reality will be found in your tomorrow.
And for as long as you predominantly think and feel a ‘lack’ of what you desire, you shall continue to see this ‘lack’ in your reality.
The more you miss, the more missing you shall experience.
The more you want, the more wanting you shall experience.
The more you need, the more needing you shall experience.
You are right to have written down what you’re grateful for in your life, and what you appreciate about him, but you do this, not to get him back, but to change the way you think and feel. To stop you from missing, wanting and needing.
When you are truly grateful for what you have, and vibrate this good stuff gratitude, the Law of Attraction just brings you more good stuff.
The more gratitude you feel, the more things to be grateful for, you shall experience.
You are also right to believe that if you focus on the good positive things, you shall experience more good positive things.
But you cannot remind your ex of these things in the hope that he will change and be rid of his anger.
In fact, by doing this you are reinforcing the need of change that you have, as well offering his anger thought and feeling.
The more need of change you have, the more need for change you shall experience.
The more you focus on his anger, the more anger you shall experience.
The only power and you have, is the power and control over your thoughts and feelings. Let them fester and grow as an uncontrollable chatter of need and want, then they shall continue to manifest an uncontrollable experience.
Check them, and replace your negative and destructive thoughts and feelings with positive and constructive ones, and that change shall be reflected in your reality.
If you desire to experience a magnificent relationship, then have that vibration now, feel the happiness that you had, and as soon as a thought or feeling comes to contradict your desire, remember it again.
I am not saying that you can never reconcile this relationship, far from it, but to reconcile it from a vibration of need will never do it.
To experience the best of what you want, you need to align with it, and you can only do that by feeling and thinking the best you can
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