Use The Law of Attraction When My Ex Has Someone New

I broke up with my ex 5 months ago after a one and a half year relationship (because he was uncomfortable and not in love with me anymore), at first we were still keeping in contact, sometimes he was cold with me, sometimes not. But since August, we have no more contact.


I have tried to contact him, but he is cold, and now he has a girlfriend (right after our relationship ends).

In our first year our relationship was okay but then he withdrew from me because of my faults, I was too busy, too stubborn, etc.

My questions are:

1. How to apply the Law of Attraction when he does not see me anymore?

2. How to apply the Law of Attraction when he looks so happy with his new girlfriend?

3. How to show him that I have changed?

He is my first love and I think he is my soul mate..

I kept dreaming about him every night. I will do anything to get him back..

Law-of-Attraction-Guide Reply

The Law of Attraction works in a cycle, as your thoughts attract experiences which lead to more thoughts, this is what happens…

  1. You think and feel about your experiences.
  2. Your thoughts and emotions set your vibrational tone.
  3. As a result of this vibrational frequency you align to events, circumstances and people that resonate with you.
  4. You experience a cooperative reality with the people and things that surround you.
  5. You think and feel about your experiences.

In other words, the experiences that you have today are the result of past thoughts and emotions, and what you think and feel about today’s experiences, will determine what you shall align to in the future.

The Law of Attraction does not align you to the things you want, need or desire, it aligns you to situations that, when experienced, your thoughts and emotions will be a match to what you were thinking and feeling.

If you think and feel happy, excited, positive and uplifted, you will align to events and people that, when experienced, will help you to continue to feel happy, excited, positive and uplifted.

On the contrary, if you think and feel sad, troubled, negative and deflated, you will align to events and people that, when experienced, will help you to continue to feel sad, troubled, negative and deflated.

If then the Law of Attraction aligns you to experiences that match the way you have been thinking and feeling, surely the importance of what makes up your thoughts and emotions are paramount for you to experience a reality that you desire?

It must then follow that to experience a certain reality, you must exercise control over your mind, so that you only think thoughts and feel emotions that match the existence of that reality.

This is quite the opposite to the way most people behave, as they move from one experience to another, thinking only in reaction to what has happened.

Great if your reality is wanted, not so great if it causes you pain and sadness.

With the belief that by exercising control over our environment, our environment can offer us happiness and contentness, it is very tempting to try and manipulate the events and people we interact with so that they can provide us with the reality we wish for,

This is a very natural approach to make, as it’s easy to identify the parts of our lives that we don’t like, and if we just pushed, cajoled and chased these parts away, surely we would feel happiness.

How many times have you heard people say how happy they would be, if their partner changed their behavior, or their workmates stopped complaining, or if they had enough money. What they fail to realize is that it is only their thoughts and emotions about their currant experiences that have brought these things to them, and without changing the way they think and feel, their partners will always offer unwanted behavior, their workmates will continue to complain and money will always seems to keep them unhappy.

I guess that the secret to changing an experience is to embrace it and let it be; after all, it was created with ‘past’ thought.

Resist the temptation to try to change the things around you, as there is no work to be done there, instead work within to find a state of happiness, regardless of what is happening with the out, and as you do, your reality will start to reflect back to you the best of how you feel.

So to your questions….

How to apply the Law of Attraction when he does not see me anymore?

This is a Law, it is in action at all times and whatever you are thinking and feeling today, you are aligning to in your tomorrows.

However this is your ex’s Law to, and whatever he is thinking and feeling he is also aligning to.

Your work is with your thoughts and emotions. I am sure that you feel that you would be happy when you are back together but you have no power over that. You have power over your mind, and if you spent your time focusing on being happy, I can guarantee that your reality shall reflect to you, exactly what you are thinking and feeling, in the most suitable way that can be.

Remember, there is no way of changing your thoughts to change his reality

How to apply the Law of Attraction when he looks so happy with his new girlfriend?

If he looks happy, then the chances are that he is thinking and feeling happy, and as we have seen, he is bound to align to events, circumstances and people to help him to think and feel more happiness.

There is no way that you can think something so that it manifests in his reality, that would defy Law. And even if you could get in, if the experience he was having with you did not match his frequency, you’d vibrate right out of there.

How to show him that I have changed?

You don’t! There was no need for you to change. You were perfect all along.

In your question you said, “he withdrew from me because of my faults, I was too busy, too stubborn, etc.” What actually happened is that he saw in you some parts that he disapproved of, and he offered these parts of you thought and emotion.

In other words, he included some parts of you that he did not like into his vibration, and the Law of Attraction aligned him to the perfect, cooperating experience of these things, you!

You manifested in his reality a match for his thoughts and emotions, it’s just a shame that he focused his thoughts and emotions on what he did not like, instead of what he liked.

It is important for you to understand that he is not the key to your happiness, you are, and with some work you can start to take charge of the vibrational part of you, so that the perfect match to the perfect way you have of thinking can be aligned to you, to provide to you the most perfect reality.

You hold the key to a perfect life and no one has any power over what you should be, do or have, Just think it.

I hope that you have found this information useful, and if you have any thoughts, or if anyone has any thoughts, please join in and add a comment below…

John Peace
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