Using The Law of Attraction To Get Over This Feeling
A while ago I meet a man online. We started talking on the phone and within the first week I started having feelings for him, but it wasn’t an I love you type of feeling it was just a feeling of I know you are the one for me.
He lives in another state so we have never met before but yet as we continued to talk over the next couple weeks that feeling just got stronger. Then ‘over’ what I feel is nothing more than a misunderstanding, he will not speak to me anymore. It has been only two weeks since he has not spoken to me but my feelings are still as strong as ever.
Usually I am easily able to move on but I just can’t shake him off and I know I can’t use the law of attraction to get him back but I can’t help but feel like he is the one for me and I mean I’m sorry to say this but I never even felt that way about my husband.
I have tried replacing my feeling of lack and really just longing for him with happiness and appreciation but I can’t help but continue going back to the thoughts of wanting to talk to him and get our friendship back.
How do I get through this?
And another question is he is in the entertainment business so even though I try not to every once in a while I catch myself going to his webpage and watching clips of him or listening to his music etc.
Is this making it harder for me?
Should I not be doing this?
I need help. I have always believed that if something is meant to be it will be, but getting through this right now is still very difficult and I just thought by now I should have gotten over him at least a little bit.
I certainly would agree that replacing your thoughts towards him with happiness and appreciation would be the right step forward. But you need to make sure that your happiness and appreciation thoughts do not include him.
It would be a good exercise to write down all the good things in your life, that you have now, that you experience now, and to spend some time, every day, contemplating these good experiences.
Do this rather like a visualization exercise, at least twice a day.
It would also be a good idea to turn some of these good experiences into affirmations that you can learn and repeat to yourself easily. To help you with these, put them on Post-its, and place them in position you’ll see them, as you go about your day.
They should be quite simple, and read something like….
“I am so happy that I continue to have ……………. in my life.”
Use these affirmations as your ‘alternative thought pills’, and each time you find yourself going back to thoughts about this person, or looking at his website, take one of your pills.
But don’t just say it, repeat it, and try to feel the feeling of happiness you have when you have this experience.
Something that comes to mind when I read your question is that the way our brains work, and indeed the way the Law of Attraction works, is that all thoughts are inclusive.
The things we affirm to our minds are as powerful as the things we deny, and what we create in our reality, can be born out of our affirming, as well as our denying.
What I mean is this….
And act of denying something only confirms it to our minds, and the stronger we deny something, the stronger we feel the existence of it within us.
I don’t know whether this is something you are doing, and I may have missed the point, but I do definitely think it is worth mentioning.
In your question you say that you have feelings that you know he is the one for you. And when you say this out load, “I know you are the one for me.” I would think that it feels comfortable.
But if you try to deny this feeling by saying, “I know you are not the one for me.” This sets up a conflict within you, which I am sure you can feel, and you end up concluding that what you have said is untrue, and you really know that he is the one for you.
You see, you cannot shout no at something, without adding that something to the way you feel, and whether it is no, or yes, these thoughts, and this reality is added to you.
You would be better off accepting the thought, and then adding your ‘affirmation pill’. Something like this….
“I know I have thoughts that you are the one for me, but I am so happy that I continue to have ……………. in my life.”
This acceptance forms the very basis for the practise of EFT, and I do think that is something you could give a go.
EFT is an easy to use technique, and can be used to tackle emotional issues, physiological issues, limiting beliefs and health problems.
Here’s a short film from EMOFree.com, giving a brief introduction to EFT.
Introduction To EFT
To learn the EFT Tapping sequence you can download a free eBook by simply filling out your name and email address on the left hand side of the The Tapping Solution Website.
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